After caregiving ends, it is not uncommon for some to experience survivor's guilt. This feeling manifests in different ways to include shock, overwhelming grief, and self blame. Some people withdraw from family and friends while others shut off their emotions which can cause additional stress on their own and their family's emotional path.
Everyone has different ways in which they mourn. It is important to allow oneself the time to grieve and accept that emotions are not a sign of weakness or a barrier to moving on with life. It can take one to two years before the intense pain of loss gives way to cherished memories of a loved one. While it is natural to feel guilty and second-guess decisions after the loss of a loved one, these thoughts and criticisms do not change the past and will not bring the loved one back; it only blocks the mourning process. Allow and trust that healing will come. Find support through family and friends with whom the path can be traveled together.